An insecure person will surround himself with the people inferior to him so that he gets support from them to continue living his life in the same manner and he won’t be bothered with any questions. He tries to isolate himself from the people who actually care about him and ask him whether his choices are leading him to the life he wanted to live.

When insecurities take control of your life, you start doubting yourself and also the decisions you make for yourself. Other person’s opinion seems far much better than your own. It would only take one conversation with a narrow minded relative or a friend to completely abandon your decision. Your thoughts are captured by their negativity and you are forced to change your opinion. Thoughts like, ‘my dreams are unrealistic’ and ‘I should aim for something more attainable’ keep swirling in your mind and then soon enough you start to agree with these sentiments. Your level of thinking is brought down with mere one conversation.

One of the things that insecurities do is to make you a person who tries to seek attention all the time. You start to live in a bubble and try to make others believe that you have control over your life. You take it as your responsibility that you have to give life advice to your friends and also let them know that you are having the best time of your life, even though the truth is a bit different from reality. By doing such things a person starts to believe that he is confident and has gained his self-esteem but in reality, he does such things so that he does not have to confront his real problems. He tries to avoid confrontation and continues to live in a bubble.

Your insecurities also start to take control of your personal and professional life. It makes you to become a settler. You start to think that you won’t be able to attract someone better so, you settle for the one who gives you enough attention and affection to be contented in a relationship. Professionally, you settle for a job which you thought was your dream job. A job that does not push you beyond your limits and you remain in your comfort zone.

By the time you understand what you really wanted for your life, you begin to tell yourself that it’s too late now to take a different path. When time passes by, you realize that the life you’ve made for yourself is highly unsatisfactory. You make peace with your life decisions and continue to live it in the same way. By doing so, you make yourself unaware of your true potential and what you actually are capable of doing. You are always in a state of dilemma that what you could have achieved if you would have just given your life a chance and tried to do the things which you actually wanted to do.

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